Monthly Archives: September 2015

It’s Not About Me

“Just back away slowly and no one will get hurt.” 

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That seemed to be what my body language was saying as I slowly took a step back from a friend I’d run into as I was getting a cup of coffee at the local convenience store.  It’s not that I’m unfriendly.  It’s just that I was dressed in very short workout shorts that seemed like a good idea for the Y in the town where the only people I know are my lady friends at my water aerobics class.  In the town where I grew up they seemed more than a tad too short.  I was sans makeup and my hair was doing it’s own thing as I’d driven the convertible that morning.

Then I suddenly realized…it’s not about me.  

I asked myself how I would be behaving if I had on a nice outfit, makeup and hair styled.  Then I took a breath, took a step back towards the friend I hadn’t seen in ages and said, “So what are you up to now?”  We chatted back and forth in a friendly and happy matter until we parted ways.

Wow…confidence isn’t exactly about me.  It’s about getting my mind off me to the other.

“Just come forward slowly and no one will get hurt.”  You might be surprised how confident you feel.

Live Your Lemonade Life,

Debbie

Copyright 2015.  All Rights Reserved.  Original photos and Text by Debbie Baker Burns.  If referring to any content on this blog, please link back.  Thank you for stopping by.

Just Living Your Life

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So I’m in the grocery store with my husband and my youngest son.  My husband is looking everything over, taking his time and I’m impatient wanting to get this food shopping over with.  I mean it’s not like we’re buying clothes or books or something fun.

I say to my son, “I think Dad like’s grocery shopping more than I do.”

“Don’t you like it?” he asks, a little surprised.

“No, I don’t.  I just want to get it over with.”

“You just need to change your attitude.  You should enjoy whatever you’re doing...because whatever doing you’re just living your life.”

Oh.  yeah.  My life.  I am just living my life.  Hmmm.  Grocery shopping is a necessary part of it.  Wouldn’t it be better if I enjoyed it since I have to do it anyway?

Fast forward.  Two weeks later.  I am at the grocery store with my husband and my oldest son this time.  I tell my son the grocery store philosophy of his little brother.  I tell him I’m going to have fun.  I tell him about a woman riding the cart out as her husband pushed her to the car.  I mess around in the aisles.

It’s still just food shopping but it’s pleasantly fun this time.

I think everything you read is stored somewhere inside your amazing brain.  As I write this I am reminded of reading Alexandra Stoddard when she said, “I don’t want to go anywhere; I don’t want to leave anybody behind.  Happiness is right here, right now, in this world, in this room.  I am happiest wherever it is that I am.”

So my new policy is that whatever I’m doing, I’m just living my life…and it’s up to me if it’s going to be a pleasant and fun life.

I always have a wonderful time, wherever I am, whomever I’m with. 

I’m human so I’m not going to nail this every time.  But this is my goal to strive towards.  Let’s try to not skip over parts of life that we don’t enjoy.  Let’s search for something in that moment to make it better.

Live Your Lemonade Life,

Debbie

Copyright 2015.  All Rights Reserved.  Original photos and Text by Debbie Baker Burns.  If referring to any content on this blog, please link back.  Thank you for stopping by.